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I am not so good at being predictable. And I have been on the receiving end from people around me for being too “bold”, being too “shy” being “impulsive” and being “restless”. The list of adjectives could go on, but the point is, what drives me? And thankfully, I have a clarity on the answer. What drives me is being independent, financially stable and trusting my instincts. I have been vulnerable, naive and stupid at times, but they have only made me the person I am today. And I take ownership of all the mistakes I have made in my life because those decisions were mine. And therefore, no regrets.
Currently, I am in the midst of something which I fondly call as my “tectonic shift” as I change cities, move away from family, friends and from within the known spheres of my comfort zone. In short, I was going to have a zero social life and zero friends in an alien city. The decision was definitely not easy. And this time around, along with the adjectives like “vagabond”, ( wait, there’s more!) there were full-fledged sentences too, like “Will you ever settle down”? Now, I am really thankful for the concern, however, I am definitely not a sediment either, to “settle down”. And the resistance I have received from my previous team is worth mentioning. True, it made me feel real good (read gloat!) that there were talks from the senior management about “stopping” me from taking up the current role I was being offered. It really ticked me off when I heard one of the bosses commenting, about women making “emotional decisions” when it comes to their career. I have never ( and probably will never) understand the meaning of the same. In fact, I often wonder, if this is a subtle sexist remark on women and their career choices. My present team consists majorly of women and I see them working hard to balance between their family life and career which is so inspiring and commendable at the same time. And I am sure, these women are emotional beings, but that doesn’t stop them from being the best in the industry! Similarly, my movement is a well calculated and a well-thought decision since I feel this will give me the career push I need. Yes, things may definitely go wrong, but what’s life without a challenge, isn’t it? Unless one tries, one never knows. And this has been being my mantra throughout!
So, to all the wonderful women over there, I just have one message for you. You may be termed with a plethora of adjectives, meant in the most demeaning way, ever, but please remember, it’s wonderful to be “bold”, “shy”, “impulsive” “restless” a “vagabond” and perhaps a “sediment” too but when you feel like it! 🙂
PS: A special note of thanks to team NestAway to make my life a lot easier when I was going through my “tectonic shift”. You guys are the best!
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